Children. They are all so different and yet they are to meet certain milestones and gain certain cognitive skills at specific times. We say every child is a gift and some take longer to blossom and a thousand other sayings to justify why our child is behind his/her peers.
At this point in my life, if my kid is struggling in any area I want to know. If a good friend points out, fine. If a teacher tells me, great. If a well meaning stranger says something (and has) I will (and did) get super pissed, but at least I will know. So here's a question for you -
How many times is a kid quirky and has a hard time making friends before you suggest an evaluation?
How many times can a kid only wear a certain type of clothing before suggesting an evaluation?
How many classes just weren't the right fit before suggesting an evaluation?
How many schools does a child need to attend before suggesting an evaluation?
How many tantrums need to happen before suggesting a new parenting strategy?
How many rude behaviors have to happen before suggesting a new parenting strategy?
How many sleepless nights need to happen before suggesting sleep training?
How many feeding issues need to happen before suggesting therapy?
How many emotional outbursts need to happen before suggesting help?
How many 'needs improvements' need to happen on a report card before suggesting testing?
How many red flags need to pop up before we, as a family member or friend, say "Hey, I think..."
What I have found is this-
Most parents don't want to hear it.
So, unless someone specifically asks me my opinion....
"Your kid is great."